Ivan de Vulder, attended one of the most recent Ten Things You Need to Know About Death workshop. We managed to steal a few minutes of his time to talk about his experience in the workshop and what he walked away with.
Before the workshop, how did you feel about talking for three hours about death?
I was more than willing to listen openly and talk freely about life's final phase.
What did you hope to get out of it?
To hear new perspectives, to become more death literate - there was so much to take in and I’m still processing it all.
What emotions arose while talking about death; relief? a sense of urgency, contentment for example?
I did get emotional when I thought about my 'legacy' on what I wanted to be left behind. So my takeaway message ended up like this: “To live a full and giving life will add confidence that my passing will not be for naught.”
What (or which part of the workshop) struck a chord with you most?
The improvements in palliative care. There is so much that I didn’t know about.
What actionable change did you instigate after the workshop?
My social media contribution to Dying to Know Day was about eulogies and how different people have left their mark. It’s important that we socialise death and get the word out that it’s okay to talk about it.
If you've had to deal with death since the workshop, did you manage it any differently? Or did you think about it differently?
The anniversary of the death of one my heroes, Robin Williams, made me realise that I feel blessed that a man I never met, still can warm my heart despite him no longer being here. The anniversary was also and a great chance to remind everyone of his inspirational legacy.
Want to find out what you don't know about death?
Attend one of our “Ten things you need to know about death” workshops.
The 10 Things Workshops will teach you what you don’t know about death; allowing you to set aside your fears of having ‘the conversation’ and walk away knowing how to plan your end of life the way you want to.
At the Groundswell Project’s 10 Things Workshops you will walk away with ten facts about death that will impact you and your loved ones.